Deep Healing Can be Easy
Reconnecting to the Natural Ease of Transformation & Healing
Remembering ourselves doesn’t have to be hard. Deep transformation doesn’t have to be dramatic and high-effort. And while it’s important to honour intense experiences, healing itself is a return to the ease that is innate within us.
In my own journey healing from childhood sexual and physical abuse there have definitely been moments of feeling that I needed to match the intensity of the things I was healing with a felt ‘intensity’ of deep transformation.
This turned some of my healing experiences into things that felt a bit overwhelming, quite challenging, and definitely unfun.
It is only through my journey that I have recovered the knowing that it can be light, held easily, gentle and spacious to experience the deepest level of healing and release. That some of the beliefs that I had taken on from society had that untrue bias towards power as a noisy, high-effort, deeply challenging undertaking or expression, rather than a gentle natural relaxation into the truth that we are, and the release of the deepest conditions we have placed on top of that through trauma and repression.
That is, our true power (to heal, create, transform) is who we are, not something we need to conjure and force with great effort. Power through, rather than power over, is our nature.
Many pieces have been written and spoken about how we can look for high intensity toxic relationships or situations as adults, if we have experienced this level of discordant intensity in our upbringing, and for me there was a more subtle version of this in my healing practice for the first few years. To pair the idea of intensity, challenge or effort in a healing release with the level of the depth to which I had healed.
But what I needed to remember in my own journey, is that the deepest healing requires letting go of this intensity as well as this conception of power all together.
In my experience, the deepest healing feels like letting go of a thorn that’s been sticking into my unconscious; some untrue belief about myself I took on long ago and have not yet let go of, a sigh out, or a sobbing release, and a deeper relaxation into the me that I always was, just now with more space to breathe, spread out, expand, and share the light of my natural being.
More of me to revel in.
It’s a peaceful, loving feeling, that I intentionally make spacious, nourishing, and rich with unconditional love.
It can sometimes be challenging to meet the depths of our pain, to witness how much an unconscious part of us has been hurting; but it doesn’t have to be hard, rough or dramatic. The release itself could be big or small, but, crucially, it does not need to feel effortful or overwhelming in the process.
And as we bring more of our true power and love, our true capacity for transformation to our own journey, in peaceful, easy, gentle ways, so we can gift this capacity and embodiment to our world.
Our world which is laboring under the final vestiges of these deep trauma patterns of drama, intensity, discordancy, and the idea that power is an effortful action over someone or something else, rather than the quiet gentle birthright at the heart of who we are.